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Be Inspired By the Community

25th Sept’s assignment: write a post that builds on one of the comments you left yesterday. Don’t forget to link to the other blog!

It seemed a rather difficult decision choosing which blog to use on this assignment, so I decided to use both. “Two for the price of one” they say.

Why did I do that? Since you asked, I will oblige you.

You see, they are different yet similar in a way. One talks about being honest and the other about having a Mask on. I’ve always been intrigued by the Mask wink not because I have something to hide, or maybe I do…but it’s a fascinating item to own literally. In his article ‘The problem with our masks’, debooWORKS was referring to our acceptance of something we should fight or revolt against. Say-it-like-it-is kind of thing and that links my second blog story. Here luciledegodoy takes us through the journey of friendship and how truths are or should be told.

On these, I hinge my thoughts. Much as I refer to myself as one who derives pleasure in saying truths and telling it as it is, those who really know me know that rather than tell a lie, I am silent. That way they get their answers. 🙂 But thinking about it, does that exonerate me from the crime associated with my silence? We are told that ‘Silence means consent’…have I consented to their misbehaviour? Like debooWORKS surmised “it is almost impossible to be honest all the time, but we must strive for this all the time”.

Going through luciledegodoy’s comments and replies, I deduced (and I’m of this school of thought too) that I’d rather let you know my thoughts on what is going on, but I’m somewhat careful about the delivery and timing (sometimes)…sometimes I say it when it happens because after that time, it will lose the effect. I equally try to weigh the aura and your mood before I continue.

However, there are things that need to be addressed instantly. So I ask, how do you tell a friend she has Halitosis or body odour? When is the right time? If not now?

I haven’t been able to do the Halitosis frankness yet (I’m not sure how it will be received or how to go about it…except if it’s a family person). But for the body odour, I usually would ask if you repeated a shirt or top or if your deodorant is finished…and yes they appreciate it. Maybe because I don’t shout it across the room, but use the right tone and show genuine concern which is necessary too. Other times, you ask and then assist the person with funds to get it.

…what’s your take on it?

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4 replies on “Be Inspired By the Community”

Thanks for reading and replying @sandiyee160 (I think I missed adding ‘160’ to your name the last time).
Well, I don’t like that option (LOL) because, here I am trying to help you by telling you what others are not bold enough to say (in my nice little way) and I’m made to pay for it (by tradition). I’m not sure if those laws are still in place, but it is better to err on the side of caution.
I understand people have medical conditions like that and I truly empathize with them (like the case you stated above) but for others, they just need to play a lot more attention to those details.

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Ooh, that’s a tough one. Kindness, love and compassion would go a long way in your approach. Is there a medical concern? I worked with a lady once, who had extreme body odor. I was informed that it was a medical condition that she couldn’t address. She was very frustrated and embarrassed, but could not rectify her situation. If you and your friend have an open and honest relationship, she will appreciate your tip.
Good luck.

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No @sandiyee it is not a medical concern. Just my thoughts on how you handle dicey situations. But given the part of Nigeria I am from, you dare not tell another person that they have body or mouth odour, if you did that by traditional laws you were to buy soaps, perfume and all and give the person a bath

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