Daily Archives: June 22, 2015

Real Fathers’ Day

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I hear a lot of people say so many things about some ‘fathers’ (men inclusive), calling them sperm donors, run-away fathers etc. They must have their reasons for saying that and I respect it. Be that as it may, I may have to agree with them that some of such ‘fathers’ deserve these names, because they “tangoed” and walked away, leaving the work of fathering to the woman alone. In my culture, a typical run-away father isn’t really bothered because he knows that the children will look for him, by bugging the living daylights out of their mum till she gives them answers. He is satisfied that no matter how long, they will look for him. They will want to bear his name (if they are not or trace his lineage) or one of those reasons.

Is he bothered that he didn’t play any part in their lives? No, sometimes, maybe! Does he regret walking away – depends on the circumstance. Does he make any attempt to make up for the lost years – some do.

I don’t have a run-away father or fathers, so I can’t really give an excuse for or fight one. So today, I am celebrating my Dad, my King and other men for being real Fathers. I tried yesterday to give King all the attention, because if truth be told, the Heritage do take up my world – except when it’s just both of us. Today, I’m committing to giving him all my attention as much as I can, so help me God. Amen!

Being the best father and dad has been easy simply because u’ve been beside me all these years, helping me through all the tough times in life. I sure would have been a big … if I were alone; with u, all things are made beautiful and fatherhood is made sweet. I’m proud to be the father in ur home. Thank you for celebrating me.

– King

For once, the wordsmith was lost for words (again) and I simply said “Awwwwww now ur making me blush n glow change colors! Thank you!”

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My apologies to all who feel slighted by my comments and on the other hand, I’d like to hear your opinion on the matter. Is walking away worth all the trouble it breeds in future? Is it worth the estranged relationship between you and your child (ren)

© 2015. Frances Kelvin Otung. All rights reserved.

Bring it back Lucile!

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Lucile de GodoyThe first time I met Lucile was because of a post she wrote on telling the truth to a friend and the cost of it (that’s was not the topic but basically the content). Actually, I met two bloggers that day, the other one delighted in being bad and that brought him readship, after a while of seeing nothing interesting again, I unfollowed him and that was my first and only. But Lucile maintained her sweet nature all through the months and later confessed she wasn’t much of a writer, I didn’t believe her. Now I know she writes very well by that I mean – says it the way it is and at the same time tries not to hurt her readers by her sincerity.

Lucile is 😦 … why?

Because she just realised that some of our readers actually don’t read our post and that includes our Facebook friends, they just ‘like’ and move on. So to sift the wheat from the chaff she took off the LIKE button! And typical of Lucile to graciously explain why she did what she did. It is quite annoying to notice that people can ‘like’ a blank page. You will have to read her post to understand but it’s okay. At least she is srrounded by just people that want to be part of her world.

So what’s my point? I l ❤ ve Lucile’s page and she has amazing pictures and post. Occasionally, I like some pictures and comment on the ones that I can’t resist and now she’s made me 😦 by taking that away! I will respect her choice, while pleading for her to bring it back after a while though.

Hope you are much better Lucile. LOL and a big Hug.

© 2015. Frances Kelvin Otung. All rights reserved.