I hear a lot of people say so many things about some ‘fathers’ (men inclusive), calling them sperm donors, run-away fathers etc. They must have their reasons for saying that and I respect it. Be that as it may, I may have to agree with them that some of such ‘fathers’ deserve these names, because they “tangoed” and walked away, leaving the work of fathering to the woman alone. In my culture, a typical run-away father isn’t really bothered because he knows that the children will look for him, by bugging the living daylights out of their mum till she gives them answers. He is satisfied that no matter how long, they will look for him. They will want to bear his name (if they are not or trace his lineage) or one of those reasons.
Is he bothered that he didn’t play any part in their lives? No, sometimes, maybe! Does he regret walking away – depends on the circumstance. Does he make any attempt to make up for the lost years – some do.
I don’t have a run-away father or fathers, so I can’t really give an excuse for or fight one. So today, I am celebrating my Dad, my King and other men for being real Fathers. I tried yesterday to give King all the attention, because if truth be told, the Heritage do take up my world – except when it’s just both of us. Today, I’m committing to giving him all my attention as much as I can, so help me God. Amen!
Being the best father and dad has been easy simply because u’ve been beside me all these years, helping me through all the tough times in life. I sure would have been a big … if I were alone; with u, all things are made beautiful and fatherhood is made sweet. I’m proud to be the father in ur home. Thank you for celebrating me.
For once, the wordsmith was lost for words (again) and I simply said “Awwwwww now ur making me blush n glow change colors! Thank you!”
My apologies to all who feel slighted by my comments and on the other hand, I’d like to hear your opinion on the matter. Is walking away worth all the trouble it breeds in future? Is it worth the estranged relationship between you and your child (ren)
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