I hear a lot of people say so many things about some ‘fathers’ (men inclusive), calling them sperm donors, run-away fathers etc. They must have their reasons for saying that and I respect it. Be that as it may, I may have to agree with them that some of such ‘fathers’ deserve these names, because they “tangoed” and walked away, leaving the work of fathering to the woman alone. In my culture, a typical run-away father isn’t really bothered because he knows that the children will look for him, by bugging the living daylights out of their mum till she gives them answers. He is satisfied that no matter how long, they will look for him. They will want to bear his name (if they are not or trace his lineage) or one of those reasons.
Is he bothered that he didn’t play any part in their lives? No, sometimes, maybe! Does he regret walking away – depends on the circumstance. Does he make any attempt to make up for the lost years – some do.
I don’t have a run-away father or fathers, so I can’t really give an excuse for or fight one. So today, I am celebrating my Dad, my King and other men for being real Fathers. I tried yesterday to give King all the attention, because if truth be told, the Heritage do take up my world – except when it’s just both of us. Today, I’m committing to giving him all my attention as much as I can, so help me God. Amen!
Being the best father and dad has been easy simply because u’ve been beside me all these years, helping me through all the tough times in life. I sure would have been a big … if I were alone; with u, all things are made beautiful and fatherhood is made sweet. I’m proud to be the father in ur home. Thank you for celebrating me.
– King
For once, the wordsmith was lost for words (again) and I simply said “Awwwwww now ur making me blush n glow change colors! Thank you!”
My apologies to all who feel slighted by my comments and on the other hand, I’d like to hear your opinion on the matter. Is walking away worth all the trouble it breeds in future? Is it worth the estranged relationship between you and your child (ren)
© 2015. Frances Kelvin Otung. All rights reserved.
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11 replies on “Real Fathers’ Day”
Beautiful tribute to your King and his to you! Ah, and what a gracious photo of the gorgeous couple! ❤️
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Thank you Lucile. By the way, his tribute made me shy…imagine me shy, that’s unheard of. LOL
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Really! You? Shy? I need to talk to Mr. King to give me some tips. 😉 LOL
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LUCILE!!!!! Now, i’m going to get a query for laughing so hard. No tips for you
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Yes, it is the children who suffer.
Leslie
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With all this, do we really want our children growing up bitter? Parents need to do a re-think. By the way, we are having cases of run-away mothers too! Just sad. Thank you for your comment Leslie.
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No, we don’t want our children to be bitter, we want them to be loving and happy.
Leslie
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My experience with dead beat fathers that I have encountered is that they typically are ignored when they walk away and far too often accepted, when they choose to stay. Either way it’s harmful to the children.
Those fathers that step up to the plate are deserving of special recognition. Kudos to you for honoring your King on Fathers Day.
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Thank you for your comments Seasoned Sistah2. King appreciates it as do I. ❤
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Beautiful photos! I join you to celebrated great fathers all round!
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Thank you my President. We have great fathers to be thankful to. How won’t the pictures be beautiful, when you King Earl is inside (looking at you with one eye-brow raised).
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