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Saying Sorry


What’s the BIG deal about ‘saying I’m sorry, I flunked here and missed it there, you were right, I appreciate your friendship, let’s not fight anymore?!’

Why won’t people apologize?! I’m trying to understand and I still don’t get it. I don’t know about others, I feel it’s about time people grew up and own up to their misconduct rather than tag it to Masculinity or Divinity. Someone wrongs you and because he is a man, you are told you “don’t …” and I keep asking when we appear before the Judgment seat, is God going to say “men this way, women this way … I’ll address your sins differently because you are the man.” If you have this answer, please send me a reply. So a man does wrong and the woman is ‘coerced’ to apologize “for peace sake”. Bible says in Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.” I don’t see ‘FEMALE’ written there or ‘SUBORDINATE’, I thought everyone wanted to be called the Children of God?

Well, I’m not starting a woman-group-call-to-action-against-men forum, just saying it because some woman is too afraid to state the obvious and some man is too cocky to say sorry and enjoy the wife of his youth! Men are naturally proud, I keep hearing. But what does it profit a man if he gains the pride and loses his peace? Maybe that’s the African Bible as the one I read recently, which I met at birth says “God resisteth the proud and gives grace to the humble”.

At this point, let me reiterate, a woman seeking for your apology isn’t asking for much, she just wants to know that you care and are sincere about her feelings to the point that when you hurt her, you want to make it better. Is that too much to ask of you guys? Come on! Submission would be so much easier if you made the platform welcoming. You won’t listen to hear but your word is LAW and there’s no disobeying. Are we in a dictatorial arrangement or a union which foundation is in God? *Nsu tor nkpo?! If she wants to be heard, is it wrong to listen and then lovingly counter or dismantle whatever wrong notion you think she has about a matter? Whatever happened to friendship? I saw this online and I think it aptly defines women. pay attention to her

Let him that hath an ear hear and while you are gathering your arsenal to fire them at me, this wasn’t all about you and you and you. Like Mr Ben Bruce would say, “I just want to make common sense”. I rest my case!

Enjoy your day!

*What kind of thing is this?

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The Other ‘Woman’


It’s a really cold morning, rather than pull the duvet over my shoulders and get heated up, I reach out across the bed and he is nowhere to be found. Last night, while I sat watching current events unfold as relayed by the newscaster, he walked in and wondered why I sat quietly almost looking sad.

“What is wrong?”


“So why are you seated that way, with hand under your jaw?”

“I’m fine”, I retorted wincing from the pain I had around my jawline. The toothache was driving me crazy. And why is he ignorant about my pain, when he knew about it all along, I sighed.

“Come, and see something” he said, leading me. There she was, the other “Woman!” Looking all new as if she had just returned from Harrods or some expensive shop in Paris. Glittering. Her eyes were really made up and sparkling, lips looking luscious, no cracks…she had some cracks before now – apparently he had her fixed up.

“Nice” I said as I turned back into the house.

This morning (again), before it was 5:00am, he was already beside her, making sure she slept well; had enough water to drink to assuage her thirst. One would think, she had been singing at the Orchestra all night! I pretended not to notice he was gone and for so long too. But I could hear her respond to all his touches…though some sounded like she was a bit ill. Well, that’s his business.

I’m totally upset… but hey, what can I do? He has chosen her over me today and sometimes it feels like always. But I’m not taking this lying down. “Enjoy him while you can baby, because after he is done taking care of you, he returns to me.” I gloated

And what is it with men and their cars?!!!! Someone tell me how you handled yours.

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