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What women want and more…

What women want and more…

My Dear About-To-Be-Born Son,

I’m not sure what your future daddy will say to you about women, perhaps he will say; be gentle. Be nice. Give gifts. Make her laugh. Make her feel loved. Be her hero or knight! Listen to what she’s not saying. Listen to what she’s saying – (Which one, I don’t know! If you ask me). Help her out in the kitchen once in a while. Do the laundry or change the baby’s diaper. Breakfast in bed, occasionally would be nice even if it’s not Mother’s Day.

Perhaps, he will say, “When she says NO, she means NO!”

I’m a woman, I know NO means NO, especially when it has to do with sexual activity. First of all, you have no business being in a house you haven’t received access to. I won’t encourage sexual escapades. I’m not sure what your generation will turn out to be, but some values are worth keeping till it’s time for the unveiling.

However, I’ll teach you something that even we don’t understand yet. As your wife, understand that her body runs on a different time and the time may not click with yours. If she’s saying NO to you, check to be sure that you have not committed any ‘sin’ which is the reason why you are getting a NO.

Sin? Yes o…you may have forgotten to compliment her dress or hair. Though you licked the plate clean, you didn’t voice it out to her hearing that the food was delicious. When last did you show her off to your friends or give her a “just-the-two-of-us-smile” across the room and she got the meaning instantly?

Sometimes, a simple HUG goes a long way to say “I gat you! I understand how you feel. My shoulders are always here for you. You can depend on these arms to hold you up! The world is going bonkers, but in here is warmth, peace and all that makes you glad.” That may be all she needs, son. A simple hug and then like water in its iced state, some warmth begin to melt it little by little, till it is fluid to your touch.

Other times, she needs you to be her girlfriend and just listen to her tell you about her day and be supportive. Did I tell you a peck does wonders too?! She may let you kiss her eventually, but if she doesn’t, enjoy the peck and make her feel loved regardless.

You will have to discover her for yourself. But in all you do, show her RESPECT, respect her space, her voice, her suggestions (never make her feel like she made a stupid suggestion, there’s always sense in nonsense – find it!)

After doing all, stand and bear proudly the title my son I’m proud of. I love you, baby and this is from one woman to another – your future babe.

@imanikel 240919 Frances Kelvin Otung (c)

Saying Sorry


What’s the BIG deal about ‘saying I’m sorry, I flunked here and missed it there, you were right, I appreciate your friendship, let’s not fight anymore?!’

Why won’t people apologize?! I’m trying to understand and I still don’t get it. I don’t know about others, I feel it’s about time people grew up and own up to their misconduct rather than tag it to Masculinity or Divinity. Someone wrongs you and because he is a man, you are told you “don’t …” and I keep asking when we appear before the Judgment seat, is God going to say “men this way, women this way … I’ll address your sins differently because you are the man.” If you have this answer, please send me a reply. So a man does wrong and the woman is ‘coerced’ to apologize “for peace sake”. Bible says in Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.” I don’t see ‘FEMALE’ written there or ‘SUBORDINATE’, I thought everyone wanted to be called the Children of God?

Well, I’m not starting a woman-group-call-to-action-against-men forum, just saying it because some woman is too afraid to state the obvious and some man is too cocky to say sorry and enjoy the wife of his youth! Men are naturally proud, I keep hearing. But what does it profit a man if he gains the pride and loses his peace? Maybe that’s the African Bible as the one I read recently, which I met at birth says “God resisteth the proud and gives grace to the humble”.

At this point, let me reiterate, a woman seeking for your apology isn’t asking for much, she just wants to know that you care and are sincere about her feelings to the point that when you hurt her, you want to make it better. Is that too much to ask of you guys? Come on! Submission would be so much easier if you made the platform welcoming. You won’t listen to hear but your word is LAW and there’s no disobeying. Are we in a dictatorial arrangement or a union which foundation is in God? *Nsu tor nkpo?! If she wants to be heard, is it wrong to listen and then lovingly counter or dismantle whatever wrong notion you think she has about a matter? Whatever happened to friendship? I saw this online and I think it aptly defines women. pay attention to her

Let him that hath an ear hear and while you are gathering your arsenal to fire them at me, this wasn’t all about you and you and you. Like Mr Ben Bruce would say, “I just want to make common sense”. I rest my case!

Enjoy your day!

*What kind of thing is this?

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