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The Nigerian in me ;)

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I’m Nigerian, proudly AK, I believe in transformation, excellence (thank you Pst Paul of Lagos…LOL), all things leading somewhere to happen, impacting lives and changing statusquo. I’m Nigerian (I repeat) and I’m proud. Corruption has got nothing on me (no thanks Cameron).

People are entitled to their opinion and so I will grant them their due audience, though I made a covenant with my ears (earlier in the year) not to listen to anything negative – visual or audio. I might look at it or listen so as to know how to address it, but I do not entertain it, invite it into my heart and home or give it a dwelling place in my sphere. There is so much negativity trading and showing off already, why would I go a-searching for more?!

That people say we are bad, ill-mannered, fantastically-corrupt, and all dem bad-bad names dem a call we (forgive the fake patwah) does it mean you should wear the tag gladly without making any attempt to work on what needs correcting? Yes, they have pointed all these out, why not take their opinion as a list of things to strike off our pattern of behaviour and form new and better ones worth emulating?

I’m Nigerian, Born-again and Proud of where I drink from spiritually. I am taught to keep my biscuit and chocolate wrap with me till I get to the bin and deposit it nicely. It has gotten so bad that yesterday, when I walked into a mall, I saw a wrap and then a plastic bottle on the floor I almost picked them up before moving on. No I didn’t pick them for many reasons; but the one we do often (my King and I) is we don’t let you get away with dumping your trash on the road whilst driving. If you attempt to or do it, we would drive up to you and inform you to keep it in your car till you are able to do it. I don’t know what it is, but everyone we have told this, always look sober and apologetic. Whether they keep up with the new-found habit is what we cannot tell or confirm.

Last week, someone close to me, absentmindedly dropped something very tiny from the car and before I realised it, the deed had been done. Oh yes, I gave the ‘lecture’ which the person already knows for your information and I also observed on that beautiful day, the response I got innocently was “It’s the Nigerian in me”. I told the person I would write about it, so we all learn to curb that “Nigerian in us” that wants to remain in the not-going-anywhere-to-become-better-arena. Guess what, the tiny particle even refused to drop from the car and got stuck between the window and the door! LOL. We had a good laugh.

We all have “the Nigerian in us” but here is a call to consciously decide daily which Nigerian we allow show wherever we are and whilst you are thinking about it, I hail o! *Twale!

*AK – Akwa Ibom

*Twale – A form of greeting

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#WQWWC – Change

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Can you believe it?! This week’s topic is a phenomenon that reigned (in words) in Nigeria some months back. Why did I use the word ‘reigned’, you see in Nigeria when something is in focus or en vogue for a while, we call it ‘REIGNING’. https://silverthreading.com/2016/05/11/writers-quote-wednesday-writing-challenge-change/

The new dispensation or crop of leaders came in with their Mantra tagged ‘Change’. Has much changed in Nigeria? Yes o! Positively? Depends on who is looking. The person selling the Change story would say YES things have changed and improved. For the sakes of fairness, I will only address what concerns me.

For the past week or more we have been in darkness and PMS (Gasoline) has been up and up and down and upper, sometimes none at all. Do we still get to buy? Eventually, at a cost to your pocket, body, car etc.

  • For the Pocket, the guy by the roadside sells his black market at a ridiculously high rate, we don’t patronise him or her, but people do and they are situated right beside the fuelling station. I hear from the attendants “we don’t sell to anyone with Jerrycans, bring your generators” and by the next day, “we don’t sell to generators too!” So we are wondering, how we will have power in the house when we can’t get fuel for the generator or get power from Power Holding Company of Nigeria?
  • For the Body, you will suffer bodily wise with dragging on the queuing line with agberos (touts) manning the gates, men of the force and other car-users looking to get the product too!
  • For the Car, whilst you are trying to push your car that has no fuel into the station, another car smoothly turns in front of you.

Now, it is Tomatoes whose price has skyrocketted and no end in sight to its increase. The sad part is when you complain, the mallam, tells you ‘nah Change’. I thought Change was meant to be positive or at least yield positive results. In a way, it has made many of us return to other recipes we abandoned and local food.

Whilst there’s so much to complain about the current system, I have decided to work on some changes personally. Watch what I say (as always) because words are seeds and I’m expecting a harvest. Come up with new and creative ideas and strategies to change situations around me. Be the Change I want to see in my home, to my King, colleagues, family and Lagos road-users…for this set of peeps, you need special GRACE, I tell you. But it will work together for good!

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http://ryan30rapadas.blogspot.com.ng/2014/03/i-m-t-h-e-key-to-change-when-we-are-no.html

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#Weekend Treat – Misguided Anger

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https://i1.wp.com/skywatchtv.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/Troll16.jpgHmmmm…

Anger is anger and that’s not nice in the first instance. But when anger is misguided, it reels off like a tornado making destruction colour the landscape, releasing words in different directions – not minding who the missile hits or the aftermath.

A well-planned anger against a system (gone wrong) or ideology would state what is not okay, and how to correct it, not just blast everyone involved and go to the next victim. How have you helped the situation? How has your invectives changed anything except expose your own inadequacies in the matter and your hidden hatred for your subject of discussion or let’s call a spade what it is, your lack of adequate understanding and sometimes low self-esteem when compared to what you are ranting about.

The world is moving on and constantly changing, we have to go beyond the many complains and get to the point that we address what is not okay no matter whose ox is gored, proffer solutions, point out the way to seek that help and move on. Like my friend the President – FK does, she brings out the ‘wahala’, and compares a similar situation that had happened and how it was solved and tells us how to sort ours. Do I always agree with her? No, but by the time we share understanding from her view, mine and every other person that joins in the conversation, we find answers.

Whatever your grievance is, make it balanced. Something you will be proud of years from now. I don’t want to say much. But if you do, I will oblige you. Enjoy your Sunday.

Picture Source: http://www.wimjongman.nl/nieuws/2016/trollen/trollen-7.html

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What’s your story?

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story1-300x191Every one has a story to tell. The “Once-upon-a-time-stories” always end with “and they lived happily ever after” but that’s in the kiddies books you know! In life, it sometimes starts bad, middle good and end bad. Other times its simply yummy…and I love those yummy seasons. Though I won’t deny that the rough times, groom me and toughen me up while increasing my faith. Loving on you Jesus!

But in all the different episodes that life gives you, I will always encourage you to look for the lesson, learn it well and fast and move on to the next page. There’s so much joy to discover, don’t get stuck in the rut and live your whole life on Act 1 Scene 1 alone. Move on! Explore! LIVE!

Today, I’ll post a link to a friend’s story and how it has made her view life differently and decide to help people she meets and also improve herself. Kash, (I call her ‘Cheque’, don’t tell her I said so. LOL. But she knows that already) is one person you want as a member of your crew. She is a willing help/helper. Always follows-up to see if you have concluded on the assignment. Is she all yummy like that? Nope, she is a people-reader and so tries to relate with you accordingly, though still showing her sweet nature until you intentionally ‘push’ her away with your bad attitude.

Was she always this nice? I guess not! Would you like to know how she got changed? I bet you do! What are you waiting for? Go read and if you want me to hear what you have to say, please share your story. https://fidelitybank.ng/mytoughjobstory/index.php/miss-kashimana-ichaver/

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Enjoy your evening!

Picture source: http://blog.kevineikenberry.com/leadership-supervisory-skills/six-keys-to-crafting-your-story/

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#Writer’s Quote Wednesday on a Thursday

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Tuesday Thoughts_121115 I have a friend who is a fanatic for CHANGE and I totally support her. Anything that hinders peace, equality, justice etc. she fights – not with arms and ammunitions but with words and facts. I’m also surrounded by a Pastor who is a TRANSFORMER…believes in transforming lives, making impacts and investing in minds, motivating us to engage the system, question it and place demands on what we expect. Be the change we seek whilst waiting for government (if we so desire). Pastor Paul teaches us to be active while ‘waiting’ and make a difference!

It is on this note I daily write about life, love and laughter. Is life all beautiful, sunny and full of rhythm and blues? No! It has dull, dark days that rains made so and sometimes, it’s Soul and Jazz that rends the air. Regardless of what life offers, I will continually make my sphere beautiful and full of humour…probably why I said yes to a King that makes me laugh at every turn (and annoys me in the same vein tongue out).

Like Bob, if those bent on destroying the world aren’t tired, why should I? Last week was fun with Ronovan and we almost didn’t miss Colleen, but you need to visit #WQW to find out what I’m talking about. By the way Colleen you made a good choice, Ronovan knows what is doing.

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